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Picture this: The job isn’t getting done. The paper is blank, the book is open to page two. The only thing happening is time passing. This might look like someone who is lazy or just doesn’t care.
Any student you know? But this isn’t a student I’m describing. This is me.
I don’t normally operate like this and I hate it (and myself) when I do. I question my ability and my purpose. Sometimes I get dramatic and question my right to take up space. Most days aren’t like this. Most days are so full that they could fill three days. But today is this way. At this moment, I’m extremely uncomfortable and unmotivated.
Strangely I’m treasuring this discomfort. I’m trying to soak it up and not forget it. I’m trying to figure out why I got here and what I do to get out of this messy place. I am the inattentive and/or struggling student right now, confused, distracted and unsuccessful — I have to (fill in the blank), and I don’t want to.
This lack of motivation and lack of success happens to us all. And for those periods of unease, life is not good. Life is unfocused and without purpose. You don’t like yourself.
As an adult, I know, based on previous success, that I will get out of this slump. But for a young person who has never found their way out of this kind of feeling, it is a how life goes. They are lost and they have been lost for a long time. What does that do to them? What do we educators do for them?
Every year I have “those” students. Getting them to succeed takes a lot of work on their part. Their mindset needs a huge shift, and it starts with me. Sitting in their shoes is a good first step. That’s why I am holding on to my uncomfortable lack of progress on assigned tasks and asking myself — what might help me right now so I can help my students. I’m looking to establish a stance, a mindset that approaches students with some basic assumptions, feedback and modeling. Here are a few ideas I’m holding on to when I work with those who struggle:
1. Acknowledge the confusion and let students know you face it too.
2. Know and let students know that there is a way to succeed. It just takes time to figure out. Some need more time.
3. Be patient with students and by example, teach them how to be patient with themselves.
4. Model persistence, don’t give up on them just because it is hard and seemingly hopeless. (How must they feel if that’s how you feel?)
5. Assume students have good intent and want to learn, they have just lost faith. It’s your job to show that you have faith in them.
6. Capitalize on their gifts. Notice and name the gems you see in them. Make sure they know you see their value.
And speaking of gifts check out this TED talk by a student who clearly was/is one of those kids,
Any other thoughts on shifting the discussion from “just focus” to positive feedback and modeling?
Here’s to a embracing the confusion.